Ever wonder?

Ever wondered why a gazillion songs were written on heart break, losing love and more recently ‘being bullet proof?’ It seems the world revolves around relationships and pain, and that is what sells the most! Without these heartbroken souls, professionals like shrinks, tarot card readers and astrologers would be out of business!

Love is more complicated than we think. In today’s day and age, that simple eye gaze is not enough.  It starts with the usual attraction, then a number of dates (and possible hook-ups) before things actually get serious. Testing the waters, hot-and-cold treatment and plenty of games. If you’re lucky, all the games culminate into something meaningful that could actually go somewhere. And then after you’re still not sure, because there are the in-laws and parents to be dealt with. A number of other obstacles to cross. The list is never ending.

Finding love back in history seemed so easy. There weren't so many hurdles to cross! It was a simple look and like, and bam! Marriage. Babies. It had to work; also because being a housewife was the trend of the time and the man was the main bread earner. They learnt to love and tolerate each other.

But then one would argue and say that it wasn’t ‘true love.’ More of an arrangement. I think love was more real and pure back in the day when both parties learnt to adjust and respect each other, and from our Indian own history we have great examples like Jahangir & Nur Jahan, and Shah Jahan & Mumtaz Mahal. The Taj Mahal was built in her honour for Gods sake! Where do you see something like that now?

Young couples of today need to ‘discuss’ everything before taking any step forward. And unfortunately at times there is a long line of message conveyers in between, so by the time the message does reach the other person, it’s all ‘spiced up’ and distorted. Communication between 2 people attracted to one another needs to be direct. Relying on others who might mean well, is a road to disaster.

Romance is not the same today. Which is why girls who watch movie classics and read books are in hope that one-day their prince will ride up on a horse and rescue them. What women today need to do is make peace with reality and appreciate the man they are with. All easier said than done of course.

Giving up on each other is the trend of today. But if through all this madness, expectations, temptation, and power a couple can pow-wow their way through and make it to the other side, then that in itself can be counted as real romance!